Forgive and Live! Why Forgiveness Is Worth It
“Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.” -Martin Luther King Jr.
Blame cannot drive out blame only forgiveness can do that. To forgive someone means not to just say you are sorry. It means you will not keep what that person did to you in your heart. WOW! That may be tough to do and too much to expect.
Peter, one of Jesus disciples asked Jesus…. ‘How many times should I forgive someone? Is 7 times good enough Jesus?’ Jesus responded and said, ‘Not 7 times but 70 times 7 times!’ That is 490 times! The point Jesus was making is we need to forgive BIG and never stop forgiving! Nobody said forgiveness was easy, but it is crucial in God’s eyes.
A favorite saying by some Christians is…”Well I can forgive what that person did because I have too, but I will never forget!” I also have heard people say that they can forgive, but they just can’t forget because it is just too hard. Others say that you only have to forgive someone and it is totally impossible to forget what happened. Think about if someone hurt you or a family member physically, emotionally, or mentally? How are you going to forgive, let alone forget what happened? God only accepts forgiveness and forgetting. In return He blesses you with the peace your soul needs. That kind of peace only comes from God.
Let’s look at this closer… When Jesus went to the cross, God was able to forgive us of our sins and remembers no more. The Bible tells us not only do we need to forgive, but we do indeed need to forget. Hebrews 8:12 says, “For I will forgive their wickedness and will remember their sins no more.”
You have to forgive and forget just like God does everyday. When you think about it there is no way you can totally forgive someone if you can’t forget what they did. Your brain, heart, and soul mentally, physically, and emotionally can’t do that. It really becomes a vicious circle inside you that steals your health and happiness.
True forgiveness requires you to forget. It is God’s request.
So how do you forgive and forget? I will tell you my secrets behind forgiving and forgetting. I HOPE IT HELPS SOMEONE OUT THERE!
Forgiving someone comes from your heart and forgetting about it comes totally from God. This whole business of forgiving and forgetting is a super natural event. We absolutely cannot do this on our own.
THIS IS WHERE IT GETS TRICKY FOR SOME PEOPLE:
-God does not require that you go back to old ways or be around that person ever again that hurt you.
-You do not have to be a victim for the rest of your life to that person!
-You do not need to hit the delete button.
-You ARE going to remember. However, by forgiving and forgetting it halts what that person did from hurting you internally anymore.
-You need to set yourself free and allow yourself to live happily again without someone stealing that from you again and again.
These are some steps that I follow to help me truly forgive.
-First you have to realize you need God’s help.
-God our Father has it all figured out. Jesus paid the price for ALL of us.
-God expects us to listen and copy his foot steps to right living.
-You need to take charge and forgive yourself. When you forgive yourself peace sets in. If you have no peace life will pass you by.
-Focus on the good things about yourself and your life.
-Pity the person that hurt you.
-Stop worrying about the person that hurt you.
-Stop thinking about them 24/7
-Start living your life to the fullest.
-You cannot allow someone to steal your happiness because then they win…again and again, over and over. Only this time it is your fault because you refuse to let it go.
-Tell it to God. Pray and have God to take the turmoil that someone caused you and replace it with peace, happiness, and wisdom.
-Most importantly ask God for healing, wisdom and strength to free yourself from the wickedness of the person or persons that hurt you.
-Trust God is looking after you by cleansing your soul from the wicked deeds that others inflict on you.
The only way you can achieve true forgiveness is with the help from God.
The reason we are much more capable with God’s help to forgive and forget is because we have the light of the Holy Spirit in us, helping us achieve supernatural expectations.
A question I get asked is if forgiving someone makes you a weak person? Oh my Gosh! NO! Remember this…God forgives millions of His children every single day and He is not weak! With his help you can receive those supernatural powers to forgive and forget too. Just ask God and you will receive.
One of my favorite quotes comes from Mahatma Gandhi who said, “The weak can never forgive. Forgiveness is the attribute of the strong.” If you are thinking that you still can’t forgive someone because of what they did to you, think again. There is another reason to forgive and it starts with your health… physically, mentally, and emotionally.
According to Mayo Clinic forgiveness helps improve heart health by lowering your blood pressure. Forgiveness lowers the symptoms of depression and strengths your mental health and forgiveness also helps improve your immune system to fight against certain diseases like cancer.
If it still feels impossible realize that forgiving and forgetting is a processes and does not happen over night. Ask for help from a spiritual leader or counselor, mental health expert or even a close friend. Try meditation or yoga, get a journal and start writing your feelings down. Reading the Bible daily helps too. The thing everyone needs to know is you need to heal. Ask God for the strength to forgive and forget. In return God promises he will take away the hurt and BLESS you with peace, wisdom, and happiness. Remember the suffering that has been inflicted on you is not your fault. Forgiveness is the only way to set yourself free and start living again. You are following God’s request by forgiving and forgetting.
Let God be God. He will give you peace and happiness. Do not expect true forgiveness to happen overnight. It may take awhile because it is a journey. Be patient and trust yourself that you can do it.
Your challenge this week on the Original Force Podcast is to keep your spirit strong and start the journey of forgiving someone that you have not been able to forgive.
-If you have had a hard time with this I hope that you can be set free by saying I forgive you.
-If you cannot directly tell that person for one reason or another…. TELL GOD! God is right beside you comforting you and will provide you with the needed peace to be happy.
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